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January 2007

January 2, 2007

Michigan and Memes

How is it that I have been walking around in an arctic monsoon on a (relatively) deserted island for two days and then did a full ten hour drive home with back pain and I am still not quite tired?

Because I had a wonderful time, that's why. Hopefully I'll figure out how to get everything conveyed into an actual entry on the photolog soon enough (and yes, this time I'm going to honestly try), but in the meantime I may just throw up some stuff on Flickr. Or not. I usually only have energy for one, so the photolog it will be.

In the meantime, as a celebration of 2007 and the fact that I should really just go to bed right now, how about a meme? I thought so.

"Michigan and Memes" »

January 9, 2007

Not who you expected...

...For one thing, my har is a lot shorter. This is J. updating for Staz, who, as I write this is in bed feeling horrible: achy, stuffy, dizzy, etc. I think she has the flu. She says she doesn't. Time will tell.

She did want me to tell all you regulars that she has a bunch of new photos on Flickr for to peruse and enjoy. If you don't know how or don't have the password, don't bother asking me. I don't know how to access them either.

We both played hooky from work today. She for a much more legitimate reason than I. I ony felt like crap until about noon, and have been bouncy and bubbly for the rest of the day much to her annoyance. Nothing like a good 10 hours of sleep to make you feel like conquering the wrld again. And believe me, nothing like a full-on case of Oprah in the afternoon to make me CAN'T WAIT to go back to work.

Will I (we) still have a job? Time will tell.

January 10, 2007

Spicy Broccoli and Tofu Update

I'm feeling much better since J. posted that last entry. Apparently we both had a touch of food poisoning and were home sick yesterday. He much less sick than me. However, we are both back among the land of the living today. I'm actually feeling so much better that we decided to have something substantial for dinner - tofu. Much to my surprise, it was incredible. I don't generally like tofu but we decided to try a spicy broccoli stir-fry recipe I found and it was quite tasty. I'm so surprised at how I've become such an improvisational cook. Sure, we've had some nasty dinners and have thrown stuff out and gone for pizza, but for the most part we've done really well with our veggie creations. It's now to the point that when we go house hunting, the first thing I look at is the kitchen and how cook-friendly it is. Trust me when I tell you that no one would have expected that of me ten years ago. It's not that I didn't know how, but rather that I was willing and no one wanted to teach me. Like so many other things in my life, I just had to buck up and teach myself and everything worked out fine.

Now if only I could master the All Four Burners Going at Once approach, we'd be all set.

"Spicy Broccoli and Tofu Update" »

January 15, 2007

I Walk the Line

It seems that everyone around me is either A) talking babies B) thinking babies or C) having babies. It's odd, because as my friends find themselves becoming more mature and deciding to create families, I find myself swinging the other way. I am never a person that says I will never do something. (yes, that pun was intentional) See what I mean? I am a person that's very happy with fluctuating and having a different dream every five years. However, what I've noticed is that for every gut instinct and longing that I've had in my life, being a mother is just not one of them. J. always laughs when because I get more excited about puppies and kittens than I do babies. I've always felt it my mission in life to give my love to the animals rather than procreate. I'm telling you I wouldn't be a great parent. My patience level is something to be feared. However, you put me with a crazy maniacal and snarling dog and I couldn't be more calm. Put me with a screaming infant? I turn red in the face and have to keep myself from screaming.

I'm not proud of this within myself. It's not something I set out to have, some gift I longed to discover. Rather, it is the product of both my upbringing and my genetics. Those same genetics that I would pass on to any potential children - and I just couldn't have that. I don't want to fear hurting my child because my temper is so out of control - nor do I want to try to console a child that has a temper like mine. I have a degree in psychology, I've read all the studies, I know all the evidence with temperament and genetics. I know that temperament is largely present at birth and remains that way most of your life. However, I also know the flip side - being an abuse survivor that has changed her path because she has chosen to fight her genetics with cognition and reinforcement. But you know what? It doesn't change anything. Yes, I'm a better person than any of my abusers thought I would be. No, I am not a person that wishes to break the chain by becoming a parent.

"I Walk the Line" »

January 16, 2007

Where did all this damn code come from?

What you're seeing is my horribly lazy attempt at trying to understand the new MT 3.33 stylesheet templates. Trust me, I'm well aware that it's not polished or even necessarily pretty. For one, I can't figure out why the butterfly image isn't centered as it's supposed to be, nor can I figure out why the entry titles aren't white and justified to the right as they're supposed to be. The date is supposed to be the tan accent color, but again I have no idea why some things are working and others aren't. Thinking back to how hard it was for me to figure out template design on MT four years ago, I can only imagine that this will take another year to even understand much less master.

Ah, hell. Just tell me it's beautiful and I'll take your word for it. My eyes are done for the night. *sigh*

Edited to add: I've been fidgeting with this thing on my work computer as well (meaning = bigger monitor) and I still can't figure out how to the get the blog entries on the right with the other junk in a smaller column on the left. Grrrr. Sorry about that, everyone. I just assumed it was showing up that way because of my insanely small home monitor, but apparently it's not. *sigh*

January 22, 2007

I can't stop

Yeah. I'm working on it. I'm also playing hooky from work today, but hey - my blog's sick.

(Have patience everyone - and cross your fingers that I don't break the internet.)

Update: I think that's about as good as it's going to get for now. I basically just went back to the default template and started from scratch. Apparently that Style Generat0r tool is only good if you're a coding genius. That, I am not. The only thing left that's really bugging me is not being able to put a banner picture at the top. I have it in my code, but for some reason I can't get everything to move down so that my butterfly picture is visible. I've adjusted my padding and tried everything that I know to do, but I'm just not getting it somehow. If anyone has any ideas on how to center a picture and use it a banner in MT 3.33, I'd be incredibly grateful. I'd also love to have my Expand/Collapse Entry feature back, but alas, I have no idea where to begin looking for that script again.

*sigh* Mo' technology, mo' problems. Oh well. The colors are nice, yes?

Please keep your hands and feet in the car at all times

Today was filled with wild ups and wild downs. But in the end, everything was fine. You know why? This.

Nothing's official. So just keep your fingers crossed that everything goes smoothly, please? :-)

January 25, 2007

Weeeee.

They accepted our offer. Tomorrow's the inspection. Please think good thoughts and pray that there isn't a massive structural issue in our future - pleeeeeeeeease?

*doesn't hope yet, pretends nothing's happening*

January 28, 2007

Center of a circle, side of a square

We had the inspection on Friday. I wonder what the inspector must have thought when he showed up to find my dad, my aunt, J., my mom, her husband, the realtor and then myself - all hanging around the house asking him a million questions and watching his every move while biting our lips and holding our breath.

The news, it's well... news. We expected that there was a small leak in the basement - this is typical when every house in your state is carved out of a mountain side - but we also expected that it would be easily fixable with some good waterproofing and sealing. However, what we did not expect was the fact that the previous owner shored up a stone wall in the driveway - again on a hill - without providing any drainage whatsoever. Say hello to massive pressure, say hello to a giant bow in the basement wall that we somehow never noticed. The good news? It's a relatively minor fix - we use an auger to drill some holes in the wall and provide lots of drainage. The bad news? We have to rip out all the drywall in the finished basement and pray to the gods of pity and home repair that the rest of the basement isn't a) covered in mold or b) sliding inward. Also the really big thing - c) we never really get to have a fully finished basement.

Now if the rest of house were huge and had lots of space, I wouldn't worry about it. But it's an oddly structured cape-cod style house - lots of space without a lot of rooms. Therefore, the basement was going to be our fun zone. Initially this was a deal breaker. If we can't use the basement, we'll just be crowded like we are now so what's the point? However, due to special addendums, we had already laid down a non-refundable $1,000 deposit just to make an offer on this house, not to mention the price of inspection. So I cried, we screamed, I didn't sleep, we argued for two days about this.

But then J. looked into my tearful face and promised me two things:
-- "You will not have to give up your books. I will build you something, we will be creative, I will find a way to give you the library of your dreams, no matter if I have to build shelves floor to ceiling all over that damn house."
-- "We will figure out a way to finish that basement. I don't care if we have to just have a cement floor, we will still make it awesome and hang your art everywhere and it will still be a fun zone, I promise."

And then we went over by ourselves one more time to take measurements, to sit quietly in it and think without outside influence. This time however, we took Gypsy. For years, we have wanted to own a home so badly we could taste it. We have fallen in love with many houses over the years, but it has always come down to a deciding factor - would the animals be happy here? If not, then it's an instant 'no.' If our animals aren't happy, we're not happy. It's that simple. Raven is now almost 8 years old and I don't want her to grow old fighting for a space at our one large window. Cats love stairs at 3am and sunbeams at noon, dogs love running in the yard and lounging in the sun on a warm spring day. So that was that.

Gypsy loved it. She was a kid in a big empty candy store. She must have run up and down the stairs five times and ran in circles in the yard about ten. Plus, we met our neighbors. They were friendly, they were fun, and best of all, they had dogs that Gypsy loved. It was odd how much she loved the place. This didn't seal the deal, but that compared to how many big windows and open space the cats would have came pretty damn close.

We always have until closing to back out and our lender has yet to appraise it and deem it "habitable" but these are all details that we hope will remain minor. It's unlikely that we'll back out of this one, as the location is great and it suits us very well, but we'd be lying if we said we weren't terrified. Home ownership has always seemed this amazing yet unattainable pinnacle for us for so long and now here we are on the cusp - and it's as daunting as it is enticing. We've always been ready to get our hands dirty, to rip up the carpet, to fix the little things - but to know that the landlord is not going to bail our asses out when the flood waters come into the basement at 2am? Well, that's a little scary. Plus, we never imagined that we'd be considering a house that has so many of those little things that need fixing.

At the same time, to know that I can paint the walls whatever the hell color I fancy is a feeling that is overwhelming in its freedom. To know that if I don't like a wall, I can take the damn thing down - that's mind-blowing. Yes, it's a drastic life change. Yes, it's going to have days full of frustration and doubt. Yes, it's going to tax us. Yes, it could give us so much. Yes, it could actually make us grow. Yes, it could be one of the most liberating and amazing things we've ever done. So for as scary and nervewracking as this whole process is, it's also incredibly comforting to know that our animals will no longer have to hide from anyone and neither will we. It would be ours and only ours.

The other day my chiropractor said to me, "Wow, a wedding and a house. That's the American dream right?" I laughed inwardly at myself because the idea of the 'American dream' drives me insane with contradiction, yet from the outside, that's exactly what you would think that I have. However, I prefer to call it 'normal life.' Why? Because the American dream is easy. It's having a 'normal life' that is hard. For all that I have been through in my life thus far, for all that we have been through together, it's having that normal life, that home life, that makes me feel as though I have finally made it to the end of one long, long journey. Now I can stop and rest a minute, change my shoes and prepare for the next one, whatever it may be or wherever it may take me. It's scary, it's exhilarating, it's exhausting... yet I think it's about time to get on the road.

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